Affirmations only work when they are supported by consistent action. Working with your new money message is not as simple as saying a new thought and sitting back to enjoy the show while your life transforms. For your money message to work it must be backed
up by powerful intention, consistency, faith, and deeds.
You don’t create a garden by thinking about it and affirming you have a beautiful garden. You do some planning, get your tools together, turn the soil, plant seeds, water, pull weeds, and so on.
Once you have your money message, you need to let it guide you in taking some baby steps. If your soul wants more time with your family, go home earlier. If you are an artist at heart but have never acted on it, take a class at a community college. If you hear your soul telling you that the universe is abundant and will take care of you, buy yourself a weekend at a bed-and-breakfast. If your money message tells you that you are a shining light of attraction, ask the girl behind the espresso counter, whom you’ve been interested in for months, out for a walk. If your money message tells you that you are a divine entrepreneur, research the new business idea you have. Meditate more. Start designing your dream house. Go in and ask the boss for a raise. Keep going. Build on your successes and
don’t let the failures get you down. Keep at it.
Almost everyone experiences fear at this point in the process. That means you are on the right track. The Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron says in her book When Things Fall Apart that “fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.” It makes complete sense that committing to action elicits fear, for you have absolutely no evidence yet that your money message is true.
For most of your life, you have been influenced by your money baggage even when you didn’t want to be. You may have taken actions to change your life but found yourself frustrated by the results. You may have done the ten things you were supposed to do to succeed at job interviews but still didn’t get the job of your dreams.
Perhaps the reason you did not get your dream job was because you didn’t know your money baggage was, and is, operating under the surface. Once you replace it with a new money message, it is time to get out in the world and experiment anew. It is time to trust,
to take risks, and to believe in the wisdom of your money message.
Some people simply get paralyzed at this stage. This is another reason why it is so important to get out—shake off the paralysis, get things going, get anything moving. A misstep—and learning from it—is better than staying afraid and immobilized.
Ward learned early on that money was something you never spoke about. And you certainly never asked for it; you earned it by being “responsible.” He also got the message that being responsible meant not taking risks outside the box. He developed a deep-rooted insecurity about being himself, as he was constantly being groomed to be someone he was not. As if that weren’t enough, he had an alcoholic parent, and like many children of alcoholics, he gravitated toward work that was highly structured—in his case, accounting.
Creative by nature, he felt stifled by this way of life. His money baggage became: I’m not good enough. I can’t be myself and live.
Ward explained, “In my family, the idea that a person could be successful and be an artist was never imagined. I never saw it as even a remote possibility until my mid-thirties.” When Ward moved to Alaska “to escape the force field” of his family, he left accounting
behind and instead pursued artistic adventures in theatre, photography, radio, and film-making. Eventually, he began an ambitious project, a feature-length documentary on girls’ basketball called The Heart of the Game. In order to complete it, he realized, he would have to ask a lot of people for financial support. But Ward’s money baggage, I’m not good enough. I can’t be myself and live, told him that he was undeserving and that asking for money would just end in rejection. This led to an almost paralyzing fear of asking people for money for his creative projects, especially this film.
After working with me on this book, Ward’s money message became: My own deep healing love of myself radiates truth, peace, and joy into the world, which returns to me in abundant and beautifully unexpected ways. Once he had it, he set out to apply it. He did all
the necessary research to find people who might know anyone who would support his project. He met with some of them and got referrals to possible funding sources.
He decided it would be easier to ask a group than to approach an individual for money. He held a number of fundraising parties at people’s homes, showed them a bit of the film, and then at the end asked the group for money. Ward shared, “It was amazing. People
would pull out their checkbooks and write me $100, $250, and $500 checks. Teenagers might give me $10. I would raise somewhere between $500 and a couple of thousand dollars at each event. The more I reached out, the more I was supported.”
However, he resisted seeking out major individual donors because of the fear of rejection it brought up. It took him six weeks before he called the first possible major contributor. He described sitting at his desk in an absolute spider’s web of anxiety. He wrote out a little script about what he would say. And then he promised himself he would call the next day. But the next day he found half a dozen reasons why he could not call.
All the while, he kept his money message in front of him. When he did get around to his first call, the woman who answered was as nice as she could be. She agreed to meet with him the next week. When they met, she was absolutely enthused about his film and gave
him $5,000 on the spot.
He still was anxious about asking people for money, but he had made an important shift in his consciousness. It was no longer about rejection or acceptance. It was about letting other people know about his humanistic intent and vision of the film and giving them an opportunity to support him.
More Next Week with Money Message Principle #15-Part Two: A continuation of Taking Actions Consistent with your New Money Message